"Networking is like dating" & other things I love lately

My Friday Five: things I’ve read that I love this week

If summer 2015 has a theme, it’s all about pushing myself out of my comfort zone.

The past few weeks I’ve been pushing myself to go out and do all the things.  I’ve been in NYC for 4 summers and I have done more things this summer than I have in the past 4 years.  It’s easy to fall into the post-work happy hour routine and never get out of it.

 I’ve never taken advantage of all amazing and free events in this city and finally I am.  I’ve been to a bunch of free outdoor yoga classes, French films outdoors, Saturdays at the Brooklyn Museum, etc.  So far my summer social calendar is basically all fitness events and triathlon training, and networking events. 

“Networking is like dating” – probably one of the best quotes I’ve heard in a long time from Paula, an amazing branding coach.  I went to an event hosted at a law firm a few nights ago. She’s just phenomenal to listen to.  

I just love the quote so much because I’ve been thinking about both a lot lately. As I mentioned, my social calendar is basically lots of fun and then lots of networking events.  But also, Paula had said the quote in terms of being strategic about what you say and how you go about it.  More than that, there’s lots of similarities between the two things like the ability to put yourself out there (remember how I said I’m pushing myself outside of my comfort level – yea, well I kinda asked my crush to hangout but he said something about work ugh [I truly give props to all the ladies who can actually ask a guy out because I cannot outright say “go on a date with me” it will never ever happen]). Also, it’s hit or miss with networking and dating. Sometimes it can be REALLY FUN, other times not so much.

Friend dates

What happens when you’re in a relationship, either subconsciously or consciously, you just don’t see your girlfriends as often.  I realize that I’ve fallen into this habit in high school and haven’t been able to break it since (although, cut me some slack because law school and full-time job is no joke).

Luckily, I’ve been seeing (and hopefully seeing) more of my friends lately both in the city and high school friends. Last weekend, I got to see my two friends from high school. Senior year we pretty much spent all of our time together. Despite the collection of degrees we had among the 3 of us, as Torie said “we could have been having this conversation back in high school.” Maybe things don’t change as much as we like to think.

Overall, life hasn’t been perfect (I’m scared I will never finish the NYC Tri, I’m making the least amount of money I have made in 4 years, etc.) but I have to admit, I’ve been the happiest I’ve been in a long time. Go figure.


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